Should she tell?

Mr daughter (9) saw some girls in her class messing with other kids belongings, throwing on floor, breaking stuff ect. Two of them threatened to kill her if she told. She has had stuff stolen in the past. She wants my advise but I don't know if she should keep quiet or tell. Advise please

Should she tell?performing shows

As hard as it is, both of you should inform the school. Snip this one in the bud before it escalates. The other girls have obviously learnt this behaviour from somewhere, therefore it is up to the school to sort it out with their parents.

You may also want to enrol her in some self defence classes. This sounds drastic but, I think you would have piece of mind to know your daughter can defend herself and the school have to take a zero tolerance attitude to bullying.

Most of all only she can allow bullies to make her feel intimidated. I hope does not sound patronising and that it will help you and your daughter

Should she tell?say yes opera theater

because it isnt serious, for your daughters sake I would say not to tell, the girls will otherwise pick on her, which wont be nice.

but then speak to her, but she dont want to be getting the wrong idea of keeping her mouth closed for spoiled little cows.

xx
she's only nine? and were the girls nine also? what the heck?! i would keep quiet for now, but if it continues then i would go to like the principal or something and tell them EVERYTHING!
perhaps you could inform the school
you need to talk to a administrater aspa.

me being in school, ive seen this alot

some kids joke, some threten and dont do anything, then theres the crazy ones who will.

about her telling.. well i think she should, but in secret.
Tell her to tell. I thought that would be the obvious choice...

How are two nine year olds going to kill her? If it was nothing really major then i would say just eave it, but if they were breaking the other kids stuff, then tell her to tell the teacher.
tell her to let it go, the girls who are stealing will get caught eventually, your daughter doesn't need to have a hard time at school with kids she needs to be able to just concentrate on her studies xx
She should tell, to be honest. How old were these kids? If their threats are genuine you could get a restraining order against them.
as a mom you should show her not to be scared of snotty little kids and that she should be strong and tell i mean common do you really think they are going to kill her? don't show her fear like that it doesn't help her. she should tell or you should and tell them about the threats they made to her...
I SHOULD GET HER TO TELL SHE CANT BE THREATENED LIKE THAT AND IT WILL GET WORSE
I would tell her to do as she as told i've been in the same pasition but i was 7
9 year olds are threatening to kill your daughter? You may want to worry less about whether she tells and worry more about the school she's enrolled in.
Evil thrives when good men do nothing.

In other words if these kids know others see what they are doing and do nothing they will feel powerful. If they become powerful they need show no respect and that means they will grow into thugs.

She doesn't have to tell. YOU can.

All you have to do if go to their teacher and explain what your daughter saw. Advise the teacher you would prefer it if your daughters name wasn't mentioned. The teacher can tell the girls SHE saw them breaking things and she can punish them for it.

If the girls come to your daughter and ask her if she told tell her to say

"I did not say anything to the teacher [She didn't!]. I knew she was watching you and i knew you would be punished. If i broke your things and threatened you, you would want ME to be trouble. The same rules apply to everyone."
Unfortunately if she stays quiet now she may make herself a target anyway - the bullies will have won because she hasn't told on them.

If she tells she may take some stick but at this age the school should be able to stop it. I too would recommend a self defence class - karate is good because it teaches restraint as well as defence rather than attack.

I would also suggest you strengthen her existing friendships as this often gives a sense of protection.
Hi Lynn, a bit of a dilemma, fact is how would you feel if it was your daughter's stuff, or your daughter doing the damage.

Maybe the way forward is to have a word with a senior teacher at the school, suggesting they explain what standards they expect from their pupils in a school assembly,

that they have suspicions of who is behind the acts of disrespect to others property, and if it does not cease forthwith that the parents of pupils concerned will be invited into the school with the possibility of a request for them to pay for the damage, or ultimately, suspension from the school for the pupils concerned.

May also be worth pointing out about possibility of involving Police.

Mike t